Christian Dating Singles for Dummies

Christian Dating Singles for Dummies

Dave Pipitone

If you played the Dating Game as a Christian today, would you win? Having three potential bachelors or bachelorettes to choose from for an all expenses paid luxury date seems like a dream come true. Christian dating singles have a little more complicated approach than appearing on a TV show and asking witty questions. Christian dating provides you with a way to make new friendships of respect and honor that can lead to a life-time of love or a short term interest.

If you're a single, unattached Christian looking for a date, there are a variety of resources and Christian singles dating services you can take advantage of. Some offer free Christian dating referrals and personals. Some Christian dating sites charge a monthly or annual fee. There are many different Internet dating websites available, as well as different methods for finding a potential date candidate. Once you identify someone that you would like to date, then what?

The first step is to ask. Ask your prospective date if he or she wants to go out with you for an afternoon or evening and then simply ask. Be confident when you email or call. Say, "Would you like to get together for the afternoon or go out for the evening or have a cup of coffee together?" or something similar. Ask someone you are interested in going out with. If you're not interested in dating a person, don't initiate a date. If your date candidate says, "Yes" then ask about the best time and place to connect with each other.

Second, choose a place and time that is comfortable for both of you. Dates can be stressful events, so it's important to relax and be yourself in a setting that appeals to both of you. So, ask what your date likes to do most and then do it. Most dating couples like to meet in an open, public place that is comfortable but not crowded. For example, consider meeting at a Starbucks or other coffee shop where you can chat before moving up to a restaurant or other venue.

Third, be safe. If you are a man, let your date know where you are going. If you are a woman, bring along a cell phone, money and tell a friend or family member where you are going. Remember to keep your boundaries clear until you develop a trust with your potential date.

Fourth, have realistic expectations. You are meeting a stranger, whom you know little about. Remember, the other person is another single Christian, who will be evaluating you as much as you evaluate him or her. Start with respect and consideration by being polite, punctual and wearing modest clothes. Don't exaggerate the meaning for the first meeting and think that "This is the ONE!" That attitude will put pressure on your date and you. Be yourself. If your first date goes well, he or she may want to see you again. Then, take each date one at a time.

Fifth, make your time and conversation together enjoyable. Talk about what you like, happy experiences and memories that you've had. Ask your date what she/he likes about her life. The more that you enjoy each other's company, the more comfortable your date will feel and to spend more time with you. Compliment your date on her smile, his sense of humor, her appearance, his friendliness. Pay attention to your date and listen what your date says. Make sure to avoid complaining; don't mention past relationships and how they ended and eliminate any negative pictures of your dating experiences in front of your date.

Christian dating singles can get the winning ticket for a lifetime of friendship, love and honor. That beats playing the Dating Game any day.

Christian Dating Singles for Dummies

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