Kindness in Christian Single Dating

Kindness in Christian Single Dating

Dave Pipitone

If you long for a person who can share the experience of Christian single dating, you are not alone. There are millions of single Christian men and women longing to connect in friendship, respect and eventually love. Respect is the underlying quality of all long-term Christian relationships, especially marriage. Even though you are dating, perhaps for the first time, it is always the right time to build on the foundation of friendship. Let's review some fundamentals that are important to every Christian date.

Let's face it: Today's dating is influenced by the media toward the spectacular beauty and the celebrity personality. While our physical image is important, the internal image of kindness and gentleness expressed toward your date is essential. Friendship is the primary element to a long-term Christian dating relationship. For example, married couples with long-term marriages refer to each other as best friends. When you begin to build a friendship with a Christian date, you are working toward a Christian relationship that is different from dating someone according to the world's standards.

Treating your date with kindness is more than opening the door, or giving up your preferences during a date. Make kindness appear at every part of your time together. Examples of kindness include encouraging, complimenting, overlooking, being modest and putting the other person first.

Encouraging your date is essential. Consider for a moment that your date has given up time, money, other people and events to be with you. Every dating relationship has its share of tension, so using kind words and compliments can help take off the pressure by letting the other person know that you like him or her. Wear a smile every chance that you get. Compliment your date on her wardrobe, his sense of humor, her vitality, his good-nature. Pay attention and listen to what your date is saying, without thinking of what to say next.

Overlooking is crucial to establishing a healthy rapport. Remember, dating can be a tense time and that tension can cause people to be more protective of themselves. If your date makes a mistake, overlook it. If he drops his soft drink and it makes a mess all over the floor, help him clean it up. If she makes a mistake about anything, forgive her and ask how to be helpful.

An often-overlooked virtue is being modest during your Christian date. Modest, not only in clothing, but in how you speak about yourself, your date and other people. No one likes someone who talks about him/her self all the time. If you participate in Christian activities, like attending a church service, community picnic, or even share in a mission project, your dating environment can help you remember to respect the bond you share in your Christian faith.

Everyone has a unique and beautiful personality, that blossoms when kindness is present. You can build a friendship, develop your personality and discover the possibilities of Christian single dating by making kindness a habit and intentional part of your Christian dating relationships.

Kindness in Christian Single Dating

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